With January being the month for newly engaged people, after
so many romantic Christmas and new years eve proposals, it seems that this week’s
blog should give a little advice on what your next steps should be. It can be
overwhelming trying to figure out what to do next and the excitement can make
you feel like you want to jump in head first to the planning stage. So here’s
what South Wales wedding planner, Beth from Juliet Rose Weddings advises;
Enjoy the engagement period
Make the most of the engagement celebrations, shout it from
the roof tops, arrange an engagement party or gathering to celebrate with
friends and family. This is the time
where many women skip the engagement celebration stage.
I skipped it! My husband and I announced our engagement via
a group text giving a date we were getting married. We had no engagement
celebration and barely any congratulations and the reason being that we
completely and utterly shocked our family and friends with a date, no warm up
period! The bigger shock was that we sprung it on them with a date we were
getting married abroad. Talk about a ‘like it or lump’ it approach. We jumped
straight into planning and things quickly got complicated with many brief family
Learn from our mistakes, ENJOY the celebratory stage. Let
everyone come to terms with your engagement before announcing a date. Better
that that, listen to your family and friend’s wedding stories and let them feel
like they are contributing to your ideas, even if you have it all planned out
Allow your family and friends to feel involved from the
Don’t get ahead of yourself before you have
a full plan
Another mistake so many coupes make is jumping in head first
with booking and buying things for their wedding. Sometimes its because people
feel like they can get on top of their finances by buying or booking little
bits here and there two years in advance.
Trust me this is the worse thing you can do. Most of the ‘little
bits’ you buy two years in advance will go to waste as your whole wedding styling
vision will change. You could also risk having to cut costs on the things that
mean more to you as you realise you can’t cover the costs. Or you end up in unnecessary
debt or spending.
The first thing you need to do is figure out your finances.
What’s your total wedding spend going to be? The average wedding budget in the
UK is around 20-25k, more in London.
Figure out how much you can afford to save, and over what length
you will need to save for. Ask family members if they want to contribute. I
know this can be extremely awkward and you may find it rude to ask. What you
can do instead is drop hints. Mention that you have been working out your
wedding budget and you think it will take you x amount of time to save up what
you need. This is a good way to broach the subject and you will find. in most
cases, this is where family will say if they would like to contribute. If they don’t,
then move on with planning. Anything they offer in future will be a great
Create a spreadsheet of all possible wedding costs to
consider; Venue, catering, flowers, décor, prop hire, rings, attire. Every
little thing you can think of, pop it in the spread sheet. This is how you are
going to break down your wedding budget. Sit down with your fiancé and decide on
what things are of higher priority to you.
Create a mood or vision board of how you imagine your day. Canva
or Pinterest are good for this. Think of your favourite foods, colours, places
you have been. Try and figure out what season you like most, are you outdoorsy?
Do you prefer winter, summer, autumn or spring? Try and get four colours that
mix together nicely from all the images you have pinned and pull out a
selection of your favourite images. This is what you are going to use as the blueprint
to your styling and planning. Show this to all suppliers and make sure they
collaborate with each other, especially the florist and stylist as these go
hand in hand!
Now take your mood board and start shopping around. Do not
commit to anything on the first meeting, allow yourself time to reflect. You
want to have people on board that get you and make you feel comfortable. You
also need to gather all your quotes and factor them into your budget spreadsheet.
This will allow you to think clearly on the areas to cut costs if the budget
has gone slightly over.
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